Have you ever been so angry that you don’t want to hear what the other person says, and you enter into a monologue? Today I went to Kensington church – Troy campus with my good friend, Lisa. It was an amazing service! The topic was on relationship conflicts, and I want to share a verse from scripture with you. “’In your anger do not sin’: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry” (Ephesians 4:26).
This has always been a favorite quote of mine. I think this advice can help all of us to remember to keep calm when in an argument. It would be best to leave the room, or separate from the person you are upset with or mad at. If you leave the room for even one or two hours, or a whole day if you have to it can really help!
It was a great service because it wasn’t only geared towards married couples, but towards a relationship you may have with anyone: your mother, friends, etc. so I could relate. “The smartest thing to do is to take a break, fight fair! When you’re angry, take a break!” Pastor Steve said. Sometimes people suffer from Displaced Anger Syndrome – taking out a bad day on a loved one, for example. I’d never heard this term before and I thought it made a lot of sense.
I think that all of us can benefit if we remember to just stay cool!
Zina Hermez has authored the book Not Without God: A Story of Survival and has created the Spinal Cord Injury Solutions! on line website. Zina works as an English Language Instructor, and has been an educator for nearly fifteen years her thousands of students have been from many parts of the world and she’s worked with all ages.
Zina writes articles on faith and overcoming disability and her stories have been featured in Christianity Today, Spinal Cord Injury Zone, SCI Access, newsletters, and medical journals among many other various publications. To learn more about Zina visit http://zinahermez.com.